Be your own Valentine

For those who are single on what's considered "the most romantic day of the year," take heart: Not everyone gets struck by one of Cupid’s legendary arrows on Valentine’s Day.

But there’s nothing wrong with being your own not-so-secret admirer.

Practicing self-love this Valentine's Day

Instead of scratching February 14 off the calendar and acting like it never happened, why not treat yourself well with self-care strategies?

Katie Gilsenan, BSH, a wellness coach with the Baptist Wellness Center at Nocatee and Savitha Puttaiah, MD, a psychiatrist and medical director of Baptist Behavioral Health, have eight suggestions to celebrate yourself or your loved ones this Valentine’s Day or year-round:

1. Treat yourself. "Self-care isn’t selfish," said Dr. Puttaiah. “Use this opportunity to do something special for yourself, whether it’s buying flowers or getting yourself an item you’ve had your eye on. You can cook your favorite meal for dinner or even go out to your favorite restaurant. Show yourself some love!”
2. Send a little love. Valentine’s Day is a great way to show the people in your life how much they mean to you. "Pick up the phone and call an old friend or send them a thank-you card, flowers or a box of chocolates," Gilsenan recommended.
3. Start a gratitude journal. “In the hustle and bustle of daily life, we can sometimes lose sight of the little things we’re grateful for,” said Dr. Puttaiah. “Take time every morning or evening to jot down something you’re thankful for. When Valentine’s Day comes around next year, you can look back at everything you’ve accomplished.”
4. Write yourself a love letter. "Start by making a list of all the qualities you like about yourself," Gilsenan said. "For instance, 'I have great hair,' or, 'I’m a really good runner.'”
5. Random acts of kindness. "Have your own 'British Bake Off' and give your sweet, home-baked treats away to a complete stranger or a charity of your choice," Gilsenan said.
6. Compassionate service. "Volunteer your time at a local hospital, nursing home or animal shelter, or at any number of virtual volunteer opportunities," Gilsenan said.
7. Spa day experience. Dr. Puttaiah said, "Your body and mind are connected, so when your body feels good, your mental health also benefits. Try planning an in-home spa day complete with scented candles and your favorite music."
8. Laughter, the best medicine. "Go to a comedy club or stream an online stand-up show," Gilsenan recommended.

Self-care is necessary before you can help others

“You’ve probably heard the phrase, ‘You can’t pour from an empty cup,’” Dr. Puttaiah said. “When you’re running on empty, you can’t be the person you want to be for others. Valentine’s Day isn’t only about loving a person or the people in your life; it’s about loving yourself.”